Collar of Reverence
“I cannot envision anything other than Dagmar being part of my life for the rest of eternity,” said Kamakazi, a man who has been active in the BDSM (Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Machoism) world for 20 years. Dagmar and Kamakazi, who both go by pseudonyms for privacy reasons, have been “play partners” in a Dominant/Submissive (D/s) relationship since the 2016 founding of The Aphrodite Group, a secretive BDSM club in Rochester, N.Y. Often perceived as a sexual endeavor, BDSM is anything but sex for those who participate. It is about the exchange of power and control. “With a D/s, there is a connection between our souls that I can only describe as that I've never felt it before or ever in any relationship, and I've been in love many times before,” says Kamakazi.